Unfortunately, I’ve had my heart broken one too many times. Each time it has happened, I thought that my world was over and everything around me was crumbling down. I thought I would never be able to heal.
I remember the first time that it happened: I was standing in the school hallway and he casually walked up to me and ended it like it was nothing. I felt sad, embarrassed, and didn’t want to tell anyone what had just happened. When my mom picked me up from school she asked me how he was, and I burst into tears. Later, I found out that he had cheated on me with dozens of other girls while we were together. My heart broke even more.
My most recent heartbreak happened about a month ago, and my heart is still breaking. This has been the hardest one yet, but I see progression in myself each day. Along the way, I’ve noticed some things I do help heal my broken heart. Although it isn’t easy, it’s relieving to know that I am healing – even it is progressing slowly. I have compiled the best methods that have worked for me to heal after heartbreak.
Cry it out
You’ve probably heard this one before, but you got to cry it out. It’s good for the soul to just let it out and not bottle up your feelings inside. Personally, I love to turn on Netflix, lay in bed, and let the tears flow. It’s okay to feel the way that you do and there is nothing wrong with being sad about what happened. Feelings are natural and shitty things happen to everyone. So, let out all your tears and prepare yourself for better days.
Eat that pizza
Pizza and junk food make everyone feel better, right? If you have a different favorite junk food, grab yourself some and dig in! Okay, so it might not be the healthiest option but it sure does make you feel a hell of a lot better. Let yourself indulge and do the things that make you happy. No, this isn’t you letting go – this is you being you, for you. Fresh heartbreak is always the hardest part, so why not let yourself find happiness in the small things? Like pizza!
Find your support group
It’s amazing to know how many people care about you and how you feel. In difficult times, it’s hard to remember the amazing support group you have around you whether that be your mom, your siblings, or your best friend. Even if you found yourself pushing your friends away while you were in your relationship, they’ll have your back when it ends. Lean on these people while you are vulnerable – you are not alone.
Find the positive
I know what it’s like to have a negative mindset, and yes, it’s so much easier than trying to think optimistically all the time. But when you’re feeling down in the dumps, sometimes thinking on the bright side is the best thing you can do. Instead of thinking, “I’m all alone now and have no one to do things with” think: “this is a time where I can focus on myself and let myself grow and learn as an individual.” No matter how small, try to find the positive in the situation. It does more than you think.
Understand that change doesn’t happen overnight
I know that it’s hard – each day you wake up and you long to roll over and see them next to you. And each day, you may think that things are getting harder and harder. You are missing them more and more. But in fact, although cheesy, time does heal all. Of course, it’s going to be hard in the beginning but each day it ends up getting easier and easier. It takes time to heal a heart and it doesn’t happen overnight. Give yourself time. Understand that it’s okay to not bounce back right away.
Put yourself out there
If you can, put yourself out there. Say “yes” to your friends when they ask you to go out or go on a coffee date by yourself. Getting out of the house and learning to live without them is an important step. It’s not an easy one, but it sure is important. Just because someone exited your life doesn’t mean that you stop living it. So, go out there and experience the world. Life is for you.
Promise yourself: everything will be okay
Love is hard, and love is difficult but at the end of the day, everything will be okay. I truly believe that we all have a path we are supposed to follow and that everything will fall into place. If you are breaking down and feel like everything around you is crumbling, know that everything will be okay. If you say it enough, it will become the truth. And I will promise you it myself: everything will be okay.
Heartbreak is extremely difficult to go through. And truly there isn’t one right thing that I could say to make the pain go away. But what I can promise is that you will be okay and that I believe in you. It’s never easy to feel your heart break. It’s never easy for one of the most important people in your life to suddenly be cut off from your life. It will never be easy.
But there are ways to make the pain subside faster. And there are people who want to see you grow and be okay. Healing heartbreak doesn’t happen in a day – it’s a journey to the individual.
What’s your best piece of advice to healing heartbreak? Please share – lets support each other!
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